Why I Have No Plans To "Go Back To Work" - Part 3

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If you haven't already, read Part 1 and Part 2.

After I was laid off from the real estate company, I started working at a large law firm.  At this time, my hubby was able to work from home.  So, he stayed home with our son.  The firm that I worked at was a very nice place to work (with the exception of one person), but the hours were very long.  I worked Monday to Saturday from 8:00 AM to 10:00PM and Sundays from 10:00AM - 4:00PM.  The money was good, but I noticed that I was missing out on milestones that my child was having - the first time he giggled, crawled, walked, talked, etc.  Eventually, I was laid off from this firm as well.  It sucked, but I was able to quickly get a position at another large law firm.  The position was a contract position and not permanent.  During this time, I started my own business and began working for clients.  My hours at this new job was 9:00AM to 5:00PM so I had more time to myself.  But again I was laid off due to outsourcing and the economy going south.

By this time, we had expanded our family again and had our second son.  After he was born, I got another contract position.  The hours were a typical 9-5 at first and then suddenly we were forced asked to work Saturday to Sunday from 7AM - 11PM.  I had to get permission to leave at 10:45 to be on time to catch the last bus for the night going in my direction.  (It's way too expensive and time-consuming to try to find parking in the city every day.) On the weekends, my hubby picked me up with the kiddies in tow.  By the time my contract expired, I was working for a handful of clients.  I didn't feel the need or urge to go back to work, so I didn't.  I was making more money working for myself than working for someone else.  And I was much happier too.

That was over 8 years ago.  Working for myself definitely has its ups and downs, but I definitely don't miss working for someone else.  I can work whenever I want to during the day or night and I can do so at my own pace.  At many of the jobs that I had, I was always under some deadline or the other to mass produce my work even when the situation didn't warrant it.  I don't have to worry about being micromanaged, office politics, unequal pay, being overlooked for promotions or credit, discrimination, nepotism, and all the other ills that come with working in my field.  I don't have to worry about losing my employment when my ulcerative colitis prevents me from traveling to work.  Also, I don't have to share my earnings with anyone else (besides the government, of course.)

So, no, I'm not "going back to work" anytime soon.  I don't know why people  don't consider what I do work just because I do it from home while I take care of my kids.  Just because I don't work a typical 9-5 doesn't mean I'm not working.  Heck, I was working during my induction and the morning after I gave birth to my twins, I had to take a phone call to settle a case.  My twins are 9 months old now, and I still haven't taken my maternity leave.  So, don't tell me I'm not working.  And even if I weren't working for money and was a "stay-at-home" momma, I would still be working to take care of my children.  The more I think about it maybe I shouldn't consider it work either.  Maybe I'll call it hustling from now on.  So, for all mommies that work a 9-5, work from home, and/or are home CEOs, you're a hustler or better yet a diva.  Any diva moms out there?

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